BLOCKING BEHAVIORS KEEPING YOUR STRESS ALIVE
There are three obsessive behaviors that you are likely to be engaging in that impeded your healing process and stop you from enjoying a stress-free life. Recognizing these barriers can be a great first step toward getting rid of the problems that go with being too stressed.
The first is obsessive negativity. When
you are obsessively negative, it means that you have a tendency toward being
"negative" about people, places, situations, and things in your life.
Perhaps you find yourself saying things like "I can't do
this!" or "No one understands!" or "Nothing ever
works!", for example. You may be doing this unconsciously, but essentially
you have what's known as a "sour grapes" attitude, and it holds you
back from knowing what it's like to view life from a positive lens and enjoy the
beauty in yourself and people around you! There's a whole world out there for
you...with happiness and positive thinking.
Then you have obsessive perfectionism.
When you engage in obsessive perfectionism, you are centered on trying to
do everything "just so" to the point of driving yourself into an
anxious state of being. You may find yourself making statements such as, "I
have to do this right, or I'll be a failure!" or "If I am not precise,
people will be mad at me!" Again, this behavior may be totally under the threshold
of your awareness, but it interferes greatly with your ability to enjoy things
without feeling "uptight" and "stressed."
Finally there is obsessive analysis.
When you are obsessed about analyzing things, you find yourself wanting
to re-hash a task or an issue over and over again. For instance, you might find
yourself making statements such as, "I need to look this over, study it,
and know it inside and out...or else I can't relax!" or "If I relax
and let things go without looking them over repeatedly, things go wrong!"
While analytical thinking is an excellent trait, if it's done in
excess you never get to stop and smell the roses because you're too busy trying
to analyze everything and everyone around you. Gaining insight into this type of
behavior is one of the most important keys to letting go of stress, and getting
complete power over your anxiety.
If
you find yourself engaging in any of the above "Blocking Behaviors",
there are two things you can do to help yourself.
First, ask the
people you know, love, and trust, "Am I negative about things?",
"Do I complain a lot?", and "Am I difficult to be around?"
This may be hard for you to listen to, as the truth sometimes
hurts a great deal. But the insight you will get from others' assessment of you
is invaluable, and you'll know precisely how others see you. Accept their
comments as helpful info, and know that you will gain amazing insights from what
you hear.
Second, keep a journal to write down and establish patterns of
when you are using "blocking behaviors." Even if you are not thrilled with the
idea of writing, you can make little entries into a note book or journal each
day. The great part is that you'll begin to see patterns in your behavior that
reveal exactly what you're doing to prevent yourself from curing your anxiety.
We’ll give you some great stress busting techniques later in the site,
but you need to recognize these blockages first so you can move into the “healing”
stage and conquer your stress and anxiety.
Many people think that stress and anxiety are the same thing. This couldn’t be further from the
truth!
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